Sexuality for woman | sacred sexual feminine
let the soft animal of your body love what it loves For us to surrender into deep sexual expressionFor a woman to open up to her immense natural sexual fullness, she must trust a man with her whole heart, soul, and sacred feminine core.As women, we need to feel that our partner recognizes us as an incarnate form of the Goddess. In turn men need to recognize that their masculine energy is deeply nourished by the sensual feminine.Furthermore, through bold and fearless surrender to this holy feminine Shakti force, a man can embody the full power of light at his sacred masculine core.
Woman’s sexuality Work
As women, we are 100 percent responsible for opening and releasing any blocks that prevent us from accessing our sensual feeling body.
First, however, we have to recognize how the patriarchal age may have taken its toll on us.
In modern-day society, particularly since the 1980s, women have entered the workplace and been exposed to an incessant barrage of competitive power seeking.
A new myth arose, which declared absolute gender sameness, and it quickly became culturally accepted.
Part of this served to rectify an imbalance; women had certainly been subjugated and considered inferior to men in the past.
But the balance tipped too far, and many women erroneously believed they had to behave exactly like men.Many women have overanimated their masculine energy in the race for success and the drive to get ahead in their careers.
Men and women alike have been culturally caught in the craving for bigger and better things, which creates anxiety around money and even more drive for worldly success.
Eventually this leads to collapse and burnout—especially in women who have subverted their natural feminine energy.
Women with a strong feminine essence are not designed to be like men, yet for the last thirty to forty years many have pushed themselves in that direction.
We women are not created to be out there in the world conquering, achieving, amassing, and owning. We are designed to be out there in the world creating, visioning, beautifying, nurturing, and balancing.The modern myth of gender sameness and society’s overvaluing of masculine qualities has resulted in women being energetically located in their heads, disconnected from their sensual, sexual selves and primarily running on their masculine energy.
This is not good news for society or for the bedroom! Because we women have activated too much of our masculine energy, often out of necessity, we are unable to relax and trust men in the act of love. This problem is compounded because many men’s innate masculine sense of direction and sexual empowerment has wilted in the presence of an overly masculinized woman who can’t surrender to their loving. And equally problematic is many other men’s misaligned use of masculine power based on society equating power with power over.
What I have noticed over the years, especially within the spiritual communities, is how the women seem to express their sexuality in a masculine way, and how the men in response have begun to express their sexuality in a feminine way.The ladies have become strong and initiating while the men have become passive and receptive. This is not sexy! That is why it is so important to address this disharmony between the genders.I believe we are reading this book because we recognize this and we want balance.We have reached a place where we are willing and able to connect with our masculine and feminine expression as and when it is needed and appropriate.
Another area that must be addressed is the widespread use of pornography.
This issue is growing and seeping into society from as early as six years old. Many men in general are hiding this aspect of themselves from the container of Sacred Relationship, and it is not only causing a schism within them, but also in the deepening field of relating.
If you want deepening intimacy, quite simply pornography has to go! It is designed to keep us in a state of separation, feeding an industry and intelligence that thrives on isolation and addiction.
It doesn’t matter how many sexual skills we know or how open we are emotionally.
If we women don’t trust our lover’s masculine expression and direction more than our own, we won’t open completely.
We won’t let down our boundaries and surrender in deep trust, allowing ourselves to be sexually overcome by the Divine Masculine.
And if we are stuck in our heads, there is a very good chance our masculine energy will not only match his, but also surpass it.
Now, there is another urgent issue for women to address.
We must give ourselves permission to reawaken our feminine essence and heal our overly strong expression of masculine energy.
Go deep inside and ask yourself if you can let go of all that conditioning and awaken the inner Goddess.
This may be more difficult than it seems, because staying in control has often kept you safe.
But is a woman who truly desires sexual ravishment really interested in merely “staying safe”?
Are you willing to take a risk for feminine bliss?
If the idea of trusting a man is too much, simply begin by trusting life.
Surrender into the flow of life that has brought you to this moment.
We can begin to awaken our feminine sexuality by going into Nature and feeling the pulse of the Goddess.Soak in a natural hot spring and feel her force bubble up between your toes.Sit on the Earth and draw her energy up through your yoni into your body.Go outside in a private place under a full moon, take off your clothes, feel the breeze on your skin—and dance! All these things—and many more—will awaken the sleeping sacred feminine within.
In terms of sexuality, we must also ask: do we know how to give ourselves pleasure?
So many women are judgmental of and uncomfortable in their bodies, which can turn lovemaking into a painstaking chore, rather than an exploration into bliss. For us to fully access our sensual sexuality, we must quiet the mental voice that is constantly evaluating the sexual experience; otherwise we are still in our masculine energy.
In the words of poet Mary Oliver, we must relax and “let the soft animal of your body love what it loves.” For us to surrender into deep sexual expression, we need to be grounded in our being, rising from the Earth in pure delight as fully feminine women.
In summary here are the two important points for women to remember.
-A woman’s lover’s masculine consciousness, presence, and direction must be capable of bringing her to a deeper, more blissful, and abundant love than she is capable of directing herself to, or she won’t trust him.
-Women must be capable of reconnecting to their sensual body, opening up to the womb, remembering the qualities and attributes of being female.
They must allow their core feminine essence to swell up and rebalance their masculine energy, or their beloved will sense the over-masculinized energy within them and lose his instinctual interest.
Man’s Sexuality Work
Men must learn to be ever more courageous in the face of limitations, remaining present and pushing through fear into the brilliant light on the other side.
A primal masculine terror exists as well, which says, If I really channel my divine heart light into the sacred feminine essence of my beloved, I may become completely consumed and overwhelmed.
Her natural sexual fullness and inexhaustible ability to love may swallow me whole, and I may not even exist or be able to do something important ever again.
The greatest fear for the masculine is that the energy of Divine Feminine could consume him—so much so, that he would abandon the external drive that anchors his “importance”—status, money, career, reputation, and dominion over the Earth.
What awakened men can realize, before it’s too late, is that this very act of being consumed and swallowed whole is the portal to a complete rebirth.
Moving through this fear and penetrating his partner with total focus will birth them both into light and ever deepening love.
Therefore, if a man really wants to open sexually as the Divine Masculine, he will not get to experience the deepest bliss of the sacred sexual feminine unless he is with a lover who can surrender more deeply than he can.With every fiber of his being, he also must desire to enter the sexual dance with the feminine.He has to be in touch with a wild longing to serve and merge with the Goddess, knowing that she is the absolute and only being that sustains him, creates him, and will one day dissolve him.
As David Deida has eloquently reminded us in nearly all of his books, the awakened man’s fearlessness in the face of this realization will propel him to love all life and ravish his woman with tireless strength and clarity.
He looks directly at death and remains in the present moment while making love—knowing the part of him that is a man and the part of him that is light.
Once we have balanced our inner masculine and feminine, once we have developed as an autonomous, whole person, then we have achieved psychological integration.
But to experience divine sexual bliss, there is another step to take, that of surrendering to the other’s essence.
It doesn’t mean that we lose our capacity for wholeness in everyday life, but the masculine and feminine essences play entirely different roles in the bedroom.
Women—you can learn to relinquish your boundaries during sex, giving yourself entirely to be taken by the divine masculine force. And remember, if you want to experience the fullest divine play as the feminine sexual partner, then you must choose a lover worthy of your trust.
Men—you can choose to move through primal fear and learn techniques to control orgasm, so you can endlessly ravish your partner.
Cultivate your divine masculine essence so that you attract a partner with a strong feminine essence and the willingness to surrender to your loving.
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